Monday, September 24, 2007

My match.

My friend just broke up with her boyfriend. Her parents want her to find somebody 'better'.

She briefly poured her heart to me.

She said, "My parents can be very mean. I know if I marry him, he will be hurt. I know my father, he would say awful things to him. He would intentionally humiliate him in front of his friends, my uncles and aunties. I think it is better this way."

My friend was very sad.

"My father could be very mean too. I think he is meaner than your dad," I smiled, trying to lighten things up for her. "Did you know he once threatened my boyfriend?"

My friend gasped. I couldn't tell her the details. I could not 'membuka pekung di dada'.

That day, I was out with my boyfriend, and my parents kept pestering me to come home.
Father said on the phone, "Come home this instance! Or I'll call him and curse him!"
Father did call and curse my boyfriend.
I was embarassed and I was sorry for my boyfriend. But my boyfriend was very calm and patient.

"I am sorry. I didn't know it was that bad," my friend said to me.
I hid my sadness behind my smile. I controlled myself not to let the tears fall.

Yes, nobody knows the real situation is ugly.

"Emma's parents are against her relationship with her boyfriend too," my friend said.

"Why?" I asked. "Because he is a police officer, that's why," she said.

"What's wrong with our parents?" I sighed.

Because of our profession, it seems like no man is good enough for us. This is so unfair.

I understand, they only want the best for us, but how could they look down at other people. How could they be judgemental and say that these men are no match for us. Then who are?

Do they think it is easy to score an eligible bachelor with a pleasant attitude? How many Malaysian guys out there, who in this range of age, are truly successful? Most of them are taken anyway! And why oh why, a police officer, is not considered successful? What kind of successful men do our parents want for us really?!

I value the heart, how a man would love and treat me, rather than what career he is having or how smart he is.

I just want to be comfortable and happy in my life.


- guile - said...

you are darn right about how a man treats you and loves you. that is all that matters. if you feel a man completes you, then he IS the right man for you.

always be comfortable and lead a happy life ya.

the ectopy said...

thanx. i need to make things work for us.