I hate the Internet, seeing all these happy faces and happy pictures and happy wedding photos and happy honeymoon destinations and happy couple activities.
How I wish...
Anyway, lets remind ourselves there are more important things in life, and sometimes, things are not what they seem to be.
The other day, I was telling a friend that I think people who know what they want in their life is cool.
For example, a few years ago, I was introduced to a handsome guy who is an accountant. I began to take interest in him (because he was so yummy) and my friend, who is his bestfriend, told me that initially he was supposed to do Medicine. He got into the course for a few months, didn't like it, and he went straight to his father saying he wanted to study Accountancy instead.
When I was 20, I didn't know what I want and I definitely couldn't simply change course or Father would kill me!
So, I admire his courage.
Sidetrack a bit:
After three years, I met him again at my friend's BBQ party, and he was all handsome and dashing, of course. He saw me and said my name, (OMG, he remembers my name!) and my friend said he's now available, whee! But, I am already married, bummer!
Talking about all this perfect men, they aren't really perfect, you see. My friend told me that his major weakness is his temper, but he's toned down a lot.
In marriage, I think it is very important to be with someone who can tolerate you and vice versa.
I had a huge fight with my husband and we made up.
I asked my husband what did he do when we were not in talking terms. He hung out with his bestfriend.
"Dia (my husband's bestfriend) cerita dekat I yang hari tu, dia gaduh dengan isteri dia jugak. Dia marah sangat, sampai pecah cermin kereta dia..." my husband told me.
Okay, nak gaduh-gaduh pun, tak payah lah get physical...
I wrote before how I used to have a little crush on my husband's bestfriend. But I get really turned off by his temper. Even though I never actually witnessed it, but I can imagine.
In my marriage, I am the one who has the temper. I think that is okay, because I am a woman. Marah-marah pun, tak adalah sampai berkorban harta benda mahupun nyawa...Because I am a weak creature, I don't have the strength to ruin anything. So, my temper is managable.
However, if a man gets angry, he could do so many dangerous and crazy things! Takut okay...
Eh, jauhnya I dah menyimpang cerita.
Okay, back to the topic: People who know what they want in their life and actually do something to get it, especially when they are smart, are cool!
Yeah, so I was telling this friend of mine that I have a police officer friend.
My friend has something against the police. He's been violated by the criminals for so many times that he has lost faith in the forces to actually contain the situation. Many times, he didn't even bother to report the cases because he believes that it wouldn't make a difference.
So, base on his background, my friend was not impressed that I have a friend who's working as a cop.
"Why did he become a police officer?" my friend asked.
I told him that since school, he already made it public that he wanted to become one.
"But why? They don't do anything!" my friend said, coincidentally, we were passing a group of policemen who did nothing.
I don't like it when people look down to other people, especially when they are supposed to be doing a noble job. So, I told my friend that my police friend is actually a smart guy. He was quite a good student when we were in school, a Science stream student and managed to get 6As. (SPM zaman dulu lebih berkualiti dari sekarang) He studied Forensics, instead of the boring, typical Medicine, then, he joined PDRM. I think there's a good prospect by doing that. That is a smart move, don't you think?
My friend replied, "Eh, orang pandai tak sepatutnya jadi polis lah!"
Wah, such stereotype!
So, kudos to all the people out there who do what they want without giving a damn of what people think!
You think police are stupid? You can't say that because they are smart policemen out there, you better watch out!
And I am proud of www.sweatlee.com who is actively involved in Teach for Malaysia. Someone who is extremely smart, but dedicated her life to come back to Malaysia to become a teacher.
We all have this mentality, "Ala, dia tu bukan pandai sangat pun, jadi cikgu je..."
But you see, now, there is actually a few smart teachers out there! A teacher that students can and should admire and make an example of. (Standing ovation)
Not that I don't respect teachers, but teachers during my days and teachers now are quite different, I think.
Okay, I blame my experience. I know someone from school who is a pathological liar and steals a lot of things but she is now a teacher!
I so hate her.
Likewise, doctors are not always smart too!
Because, my husband told me about his friend, who has a brother, who studied Medicine, but he got only 2As for SPM! WTF! You got money? You can send your kids to study anywhere as long as he can be a doctor!
First of all, SPM is not that difficult to score.
On the other hand, we can't always depend on a stupid certificate to be recognized of our mental capabilities.
But I support the government move to control the overflowing of unreliable doctors in Malaysia.
I had a deep conversation with my husband.
It's saddening that all the good ones left but those we come back, they actually suck.
So, I give you a pat on your back to those who come back to serve our country. I give you a pat on your back to those who are abroad and planning not to stay there forever.
No pat on your back if you plan to run away...
Malaysia, we need a smart leader.
(to be continued)
11 hours ago