But, I don't miss that I was becoming more and more distant spiritually. I prayed, and Allah answered my prayers, Alhamdulillah. But, now I am becoming more aware of what's going on in this world. It's evil, corrupted and ugly, it's making me sad.
Anyway, I had a conversation with my friends. Basically, my friend Lila found out that her cousin who she grew up with had cancer, and she didn't have the heart to tell her. My other friend, Farid, agreed, and he said it's best to let the surgeon break the bad news to her cousin instead.
So, I guess, there are two types of people:
1) Type me.
I would rather receive the news early. I would rather my close friends/ family tell me first before someone else. I would be devastated and feel betrayed, if I found out that you knew, but didn't tell me, even if you think it's for my own sake. I don't expect you to tell me in details, but only the truths. Because I prefer you to be direct to me.
If I had cancer? Tell me. If you see my husband is with some other woman? Tell me. If I woke up from a coma and my house burnt down and I lost a leg? Tell me. Tell me, but not eventually. Tell me before I found out from someone else who I don't even know.
Just tell me, and hold my hands. I don't need your solution. Maybe, I don't even need your opinion. I just need your presence so I can feel comfortable to cry and let my guard down. Then, maybe, prepare myself when I receive the news from the doctor himself.
Of course, the decision to disclose a news depends on the receiver. I mean, if you are close to someone, you would know how that someone can handle bad news. Maybe that someone belongs to type two.
2) The type which is opposite of me.
What do you think? What type are you? Or, what would you do? Would you tell or let someone else break the bad news to your friends/ family?
