The other day, my colleagues and I were talking about who's nice and who's not. There are a few people who are suoer duper nice, that one of colleagues said: Baik gila macam bidadari!

Whoa! Level bidadari dah ni...

I, didn't want to get left behind, spontaneously said, "What about Miss Ectopy (me)? Ketua bidadari?"

I think I'm pretty nice!

My statementwas met with laughter, and he said- "Awak pun baik jugak...Tapi awak pun ada tegasnya. Bagus juga..."

Compliment? No? I don't know. Apparently, when you are tegas, you are not bidadari level. Hahaha!

Tapi I happy je...I suka je orang kata I tegas. Tegas is good lah kan? Jangan biar dipijak.

Teringat pulak once upon a time when I was garang. Haha. Takdelah garang sangat pun. Just that, I had that aura. Apparently, people were scared to call me. I toned down a lot, lot, after getting pregnant because I didn't want people to curse my unborn child. Hehehe...

Yea, people change, you know. I know a lot of people who were once awful. Now, they are well loved, famous taraf celebrity. Padahal dulu-dulu, perangai pun menyakitkan hati. That's why I tend not to judge the young ones. Ala, muda-muda mestilah banyak buat benda bodoh. We were once young too...Nobody's perfect.

Tapi kalau dah tua-tua pun masih perangai tak senonoh, that's shameful.

I actually wanted to pen down something in a long time, but...Entahlah, got a bit shy kot...The story macam ni...

Adalah this one older guy, whom I got to know through work. He's a VIP. I treat him in a very professional, always.

Then, he liked to call me, okay, fine. He was like- "Aww...Thank you for helping me out. We should go out, I want to treat you to makan-makan."

Innocent me thought he meant he wanted to treat my team and I for lunch. And I was like- That's too bad, we are in MCO, maybe next time, bla bla bla.

And he was like- We should have dinner together.

Okay, so he was thinking of dinner, instead of lunch, meaning he was not inviting my team, only me. (Because where I work, nobody wants to go out to eat after office hours. We just don't do that. If we did, nobody would've come, trust me.)

I stayed positive. Jangan nak perasan. I am not young. Surely he knows there's a very high chance that I am married. Besides, logically, I could not be that young because of the position I hold. So, buat tak tahu je lah.

At this point, I found he is indeed single.

Then, he started to message me about non-related work stuff, on weekends. Like- Hey, what are you doing for the weekends?

And I had a feeling he was hitting on me, so, I said- I probably go to the beach today because MY kids want to go there.

Isn't that obvious?

I mean, if I were him, I would have asked other people about my status before even trying. It's not a secret.

Okay, so no contact for a few weeks, or maybe months, I can't remember. Then, he needed my help. Fine, I am professional and I thought my status is clear to him by then.

And, he came to see me, and we talked, of course. But, this time, he was so direct about his intention. He told me about the time when his brother and his wife came to see me, and his brother approved of me- My brother cakap you ni baik, cantik, lembut...And as soon as dia cakap macam tu, I cakap, you jangan nak kacau Miss Ectopy tu, Miss Ectopy tu I punya...

Pastu dia cakap- My brother tu pilot, dah kahwin 3 kali, 2 of his wives are stewardess. I tak nak lah stewardess. Adalah dia cuba kenen-kenen kan dekat I, I pun adalah try keluar, tapi I tak nak lah.

Basically he was telling me, he rejected them because of me.

Lama jugaklah bercakap, almost one hour. Because he's a VIP, I had to practice the art of conversing. Because, if I salah cakap, tak pasal-pasal kena buang negeri lah pulak kan. In the end, I casually mentioned the word husband, and he finally got it!

He also played it cool, gelak-gelak. And he asked me whether he knows my husband, and I showed him the picture, and yes, they do know each other. "Oh, dia ada cakap isteri dia dekat KL," to which I responded, yea, we were having LDR and I moved here a couple of years ago. Then, he said, you janganlah cerita pula dekat husband you.

I did not. I tak bagitahu my husband langsung. It's best for now.

Truthfully, I am flattered lah. Like, siapa tak suka kan ada peminat, for someone yang dah kahwin, dah ada anak, yang tak pakai mekap langsung pergi kerja, kadang-kadang pakai spec sampai tudung kembang hari-hari...

Tapi, minta jauh lah...Benda-benda macam ni, I tak main lah, I'm past that. Why would I risk my marriage just for a little bit of excitement?

Lastly, kenapa orang tua suka I? Sebab mata diorang rabun, sebab tu rasa I cantik. Hahaha...Sebab dia rasa, I am the best that he could have. Tak boleh lah cari orang hot sangat, sebab diri sendiri pun tak hot, you get what I mean? Hahaha...